Matrescence changes everything

Why didn't anyone tell me?

I hear that question again and again from new mothers.

I asked it myself.

As a former nurse, I knew birth would be demanding. I expected recovery time, the sleepless nights, spending my days learning how to care for my baby.

What surprised me the most was how much motherhood changed me.

Nobody had explained the overwhelm. The way responsibility settles into your body and never quite leaves. The strange combination of joy, love, grief, tenderness, fear, and exhaustion that can all exist at the same time. The feeling of becoming someone new while losing a grip on who you were before.

Years later, I discovered there was a name for this experience and all mothers moved through this rite of passage. Matrescence is the transition into motherhood. It changes the brain, the nervous system, the body, relationships, priorities, identity, and our understanding of ourselves. It can feel profoundly confusing and make us feel even more lonely than the early motherhood isolation.

Most women have never heard the word.

Yet when I began talking to mothers, I kept hearing the same stories. Mothers who felt overwhelmed by the intensity of motherhood, wondering what was wrong with them because nobody had prepared them for this part. Women who loved their babies deeply and still felt lost inside the magnitude of the transition.

The more I listened, the more obvious it became that the problem was never a lack of strength. Mothers are moving through one of the most profound transformations of their lives with very little support and almost no language for what they experience.

That realization became the foundation for my work. I wanted to create the kind of guidance I would have appreciated myself. A companion through the wilderness of early motherhood. A place where mothers could better understand what is happening, feel a little less alone, and create new ways to steady themselves under the weight of on demand caregiving with very little freedom and time for self-care.

I studied clinical aromatherapy and somatic experiencing therapy to heal myself from the long depletion I experienced postpartum, and I am building a system to help you find your way to a steadier, loving, joy filled motherhood through organic skincare, aromatic anchors and somatic practices. Delivering information just as you need it. I would love you to join me as I build and refine this process.

Former Nurse  |  Clinical Aromatherapist  |  Somatic Experiencing Practitioner

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